We take birth, grow up, meet many people, we die.
Through this veil of events which combined form life,there is one thing you can't avoid-relationships.
A relationship can be with your birth-givers, love providers, co-workers, pets. Either we care too much for a certain relationship or we don't care at all. These form the two extremes attachment and detachment. People who are intensely emotional are either onto attachment or detachment.
If you are an attachment extremist, you care too much, like you want your child to be your child even when he/she is 50 years old and if the person of your attachment leaves his body you cry, you suffer or you may become delusional.
If you are a detachment extremist, you simply don't care. Like most of Indian Sadhus who leave everything in search of "something".
There is a narrow path between these two extremes, a path of glory and courage. A path not so easy yet liberating-the path of compassion. Only when you are compassionate you know when to get attached and when to step aside. Only when you are compassionate the relation prospers, only then the true purpose is revealed-everything before that, any relationship of the either extremes leads ultimately one day or other, one form or other into suffering.
A small poem on compassion (not written by me of course)
I cannot ease your aching heart,
Nor take the pain away. But let me stay and take your hand
And walk with you today.
I'll listen when you need to talk,
I'll wipe your tears away.
I'll share your worries when they come,
I'll help you face your fears.
I'm here and I will stand by you,
Each hill you have to climb.
So take my hand lets face the word,
Live one day at a time.
You're not alone for I'm still here,
I'll go that extra mile,
And when your grief is easier,
I'll help you learn to smile.
Saturday, February 26, 2011
Saturday, February 19, 2011
What's your dream?
When you are 2 minutes away from death what is the one thing you think about? It would definitely be the most important thing, so what it can be?
about your love?
family?
money?
I think the thought that comes to you is "have I lived my life? Did I really live it?!"
What else can be more important than this question?
Living your life means living your dream.
Not a dream that comes to you when you are asleep but a dream that doesn't allow you to sleep.
When I ask people what's their dream is, I get two type of responses
1. I have so and so dream.
2. I dont have one.
If you belong to the second type then it's time that you start thinking. There is no one out there who doesn't have a dream. You are concealing your dream under many layers. Layers like
doubt on your strengths,
fear of failure,
fearing what your parents may say,
fearing what society might think etc etc
But underneath all these layers, it is waiting. Waiting there patiently hoping that one day you would atleast acknowledge its presence.
A week ago I had a similar discussion with my friend. I asked him to see through the layers, just once think about something he would love to do, not for money,nor fame,nor success but for the pure joy of doing it.
In 5 minutes, just 5 minutes he told me there is something he love to do. I asked him to remove all the layers, think through and come back to me.
He came back to me the next day and told me what his dream is and how he wanted to start. I was shocked. There are many people who never mind about their dream, there are many who took months and months to think through but I got here someone who came back to me in just one day. I was very impressed and the only thought inside my head the entire day is "Here is someone who is going create miracles."
Apart from realising what's your dream is, you have to start working on it. Wherever you are right now, whatever so called restrictions you have, just take a step, a small step and everything will be taken care of.
The greatest joke I ever came accross is, "99% of people dont know why they are doing what they are doing." Engineers dont know whay they studied engineering, doctors dont know why they opted for MBBS and the list goes on.
Remember this, "Many people around you, infact all of them want you to live their dreams, believe their truths. No one wants you to find yours! "
"Find yours, live yours" Declare to all of them proudly that It's your Life!!
Live life, Nothing else matters!!!
about your love?
family?
money?
I think the thought that comes to you is "have I lived my life? Did I really live it?!"
What else can be more important than this question?
Living your life means living your dream.
Not a dream that comes to you when you are asleep but a dream that doesn't allow you to sleep.
When I ask people what's their dream is, I get two type of responses
1. I have so and so dream.
2. I dont have one.
If you belong to the second type then it's time that you start thinking. There is no one out there who doesn't have a dream. You are concealing your dream under many layers. Layers like
doubt on your strengths,
fear of failure,
fearing what your parents may say,
fearing what society might think etc etc
But underneath all these layers, it is waiting. Waiting there patiently hoping that one day you would atleast acknowledge its presence.
A week ago I had a similar discussion with my friend. I asked him to see through the layers, just once think about something he would love to do, not for money,nor fame,nor success but for the pure joy of doing it.
In 5 minutes, just 5 minutes he told me there is something he love to do. I asked him to remove all the layers, think through and come back to me.
He came back to me the next day and told me what his dream is and how he wanted to start. I was shocked. There are many people who never mind about their dream, there are many who took months and months to think through but I got here someone who came back to me in just one day. I was very impressed and the only thought inside my head the entire day is "Here is someone who is going create miracles."
Apart from realising what's your dream is, you have to start working on it. Wherever you are right now, whatever so called restrictions you have, just take a step, a small step and everything will be taken care of.
The greatest joke I ever came accross is, "99% of people dont know why they are doing what they are doing." Engineers dont know whay they studied engineering, doctors dont know why they opted for MBBS and the list goes on.
Remember this, "Many people around you, infact all of them want you to live their dreams, believe their truths. No one wants you to find yours! "
"Find yours, live yours" Declare to all of them proudly that It's your Life!!
Live life, Nothing else matters!!!
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
The Voice
This is a true incident that happened years and years ago.
A 12 year old boy went running to his best friend. He told his friend,"Something is happening to me, something really terrible".
His friend asked "What happened?"
The boy replied "Well it's something terrible and you should not reveal this anyone."
His friend assured that it would be their own secret.
So the boy said "The thing is I am hearing a voice inside my head. It's happening since three days and it never stops!"
The friend replied "You are very late, I am hearing it since a year ."
The story ends here. But the boy's concern is not addressed.
Have you ever observed that there is a voice inside your head??
If you didn't just close your eyes now for 15 seconds, you will come to know. What does the voice do?
It talks and talks and talks.
It criticizes, judges, regrets, says you are an idiot or a great person.
You may say "Well, the voice is what I am thinking"
But the situation has changed long ago from "you thinking" to "thinking happening to you".
whats the difference??
When you think, you have control.
When thinking happens, you are under control.
OK let me ask you a question,
Have you ever bathed in your lifetime?? at least once??
When you bath you think of what dress you have to wear, when you are wearing a dress you think of what work you have to do in the office, when you are working you think of what the manager is going to say and it goes on and on..every single day of your life.
Every moment you would be thinking of some moment in the future or something that happened in the past. You would never be fully present.
So what to do??
How to stop this incessant mind chatter?
Well, we will discuss it in my next post.
Meanwhile that troubled 12 year old boy in the story is me and the friend is my childhood friend Hemanth .
A 12 year old boy went running to his best friend. He told his friend,"Something is happening to me, something really terrible".
His friend asked "What happened?"
The boy replied "Well it's something terrible and you should not reveal this anyone."
His friend assured that it would be their own secret.
So the boy said "The thing is I am hearing a voice inside my head. It's happening since three days and it never stops!"
The friend replied "You are very late, I am hearing it since a year ."
The story ends here. But the boy's concern is not addressed.
Have you ever observed that there is a voice inside your head??
If you didn't just close your eyes now for 15 seconds, you will come to know. What does the voice do?
It talks and talks and talks.
It criticizes, judges, regrets, says you are an idiot or a great person.
You may say "Well, the voice is what I am thinking"
But the situation has changed long ago from "you thinking" to "thinking happening to you".
whats the difference??
When you think, you have control.
When thinking happens, you are under control.
OK let me ask you a question,
Have you ever bathed in your lifetime?? at least once??
When you bath you think of what dress you have to wear, when you are wearing a dress you think of what work you have to do in the office, when you are working you think of what the manager is going to say and it goes on and on..every single day of your life.
Every moment you would be thinking of some moment in the future or something that happened in the past. You would never be fully present.
So what to do??
How to stop this incessant mind chatter?
Well, we will discuss it in my next post.
Meanwhile that troubled 12 year old boy in the story is me and the friend is my childhood friend Hemanth .
Friday, February 4, 2011
Live Life!!! Nothing else matters!!!
People believe themselves to be dependent on what happens for their happiness. They don't realize that what happens is the most unstable thing in the universe. It changes constantly. They look upon the present moment as either marred by something that has happened and shouldn't have or as deficient because of something that has not happened but should have. And so they miss the deeper perfection that is inherent in life itself, a perfection that lies beyond what is happening or not happening. Accept the present moment and find the perfection that is untouched by time.
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